Why we renewed our vows as newlyweds

My husband and I will celebrate our third anniversary this May. Two weeks ago, we renewed our vows.

Most people would think we are ridiculous renewing our vows when we’re still basically newlyweds. I can hear the question forming in their minds. Why would you do that? Because we wanted to, that’s why! But there’s a little more to it than that.

First of all, if you haven’t seen the How I Met Your Mother episode about this, GO WATCH IT RIGHT NOW. I’ll wait.

Now that you’ve seen it you know that it’s impossible to keep all the vows you make to your partner on your wedding day. Yes, you heard me right. It’s impossible. Why? Because you are both growing and changing constantly. I am not the same person at all as the person I was three years ago. Neither is my husband.


Together, we’ve been through some shit. Together, we’ve dealt with some amazing, terrible, and unbelievable things. Some good, some bad; but all of those things have shaped us and molded us into the present-day versions of us.

Renewing our vows was a way for us to say to ourselves and each other, “Hey. I see that you are not the same person that you were, and neither am I. I still am committed to you, though. I’m still sticking with you. I’m still doing this life, even if it looks different than we predicted, with you right by my side. I’ve got you babe.”

I don’t know about you, but that is really comforting to me. I think we should do it every few years at least. I like knowing that my husband has my back, even if I have changed a lot since the day we first started dating.

And for you romantics out there, we exchanged vows privately, just the two of us, on a bridge at Disney World, which is where we honeymooned. It was dark so all the lights on the bridge were lit, I was wearing a special I dress I bought just for that, and we had our vows written down in His and Hers vow books. It was hella romantic and so perfect.


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