Need to Spice Things Up? Here's Your Stay-at-Home Date Night Guide

Rebecca Lynn Craig

Maybe you're broke. Maybe your babysitter cancelled. Maybe you haven't had a date since your baby was born and now he's in kindergarten but, for whatever reason, going out just isn't an option. Don't worry, friend. We've got you covered.

When is the last time you went out with your partner? Alone? As in, by yourselves. Without the kids. For too many of us, the answer is somewhere in the not in months (or even YEARS) category. Between not being able to get out and whatever little time you have alone after the kids go to bed being spent zoning out on phones or catching up on bills, it's likely that you're in need of some serious quality time together.  No babysitter? No problem! No extra cash? It's all good! Here's a great list of low cost, fun (and sexy) to connect with your person without even leaving your driveway!

For the foodies! If you were going to go out on a date, grabbing a bite to eat would probably be first on the agenda, right? Why not do the same, but in your own kitchen? But don't settle for a frozen pizza or chicken nuggets. Here are some fun ways to mix up your usual dinner fare so that you won't even miss your favorite restaurant!

Cheese/Charcuterie Board
This is a favorite for my husband and I! Turn down the lights and make up a delicious spread of our favorite cured meats, cheeses, spreads, crackers, pickles and fruit and plate it on a large cutting board. If you want to make a boozy night of it, consider pairing your charcuterie board with some fancy wine.

Make Cookies Together
Satisfy your sweet tooth together! Consider enjoying the team work (and bits of cookie dough) with your partner by making a batch (or five) of cookies for your date night! Don’t know any good cookie recipes? We've got you covered! Baking cookies is fun, eating cookies is fun, but clean up? Maybe a friendly game of rock paper scissors to determine who's doing the dishes. Or do them together! Teamwork isn't just for the fun stuff, right?

Late Night Picnic
Sure, the sun isn't out. Plus, in most parts of the country, it's too cold for a picnic outside this time of year anyway. Don't let that stop you! You can have a late night, inside picnic and have just as great of a time as if you were having it on a sunny afternoon in June. Make up some tasty sandwiches, lay out the picnic blanket on the living room floor, and dig in!

Fine Dining Meets Take-Out
Want to get dressed up but you have nowhere to go? That's cool too!

Step 1. Get gussied up. I mean it. The fancier the better. That cocktail dress in the back of your closet? That suit you haven't worn since your brother's wedding? Put it on. You look like a million bucks. I promise.
Step 2. Order delivery from your favorite restaurant. Chinese, Indian, Mexican, it doesn't matter. Go where your heart (or stomach) leads you.
Step 3. Plate your food. Don't eat it out of the containers. Don't use the paper plates. For an added bonus, try some fun presentation techniques!
Step 4. Eat! At the table! Not on dinner trays! Enjoy each other and your lo-mein, knowing you look like a million bucks and didn't even need to leave the house.

Movie Night

When you think of a classic date, dinner and a movie usually comes to mind, right? Unfortunately, going out to the cinema isn't always an easy option for us parents. Good thing you can bring the theatre to you!

Childhood Favorite
We all have a nostalgic favorite from when we were kids! Mine is Hook. My husband's is also Hook (this is incredibly convenient for us). You can either take turns watching your favorite childhood film on date nights, or do a double feature, if you’re night owls.

Outdoor Theatre
It may be a little chilly for this idea depending on where you live, so if it is, tuck this idea away for the warmer weather, because it’s a good one. For safety reasons, you really shouldn't leave your children home alone while you go to a drive in movie. But that doesn't mean you can't step outside (with the baby monitor, of course!) and catch a walk-in movie in the backyard or on the porch. Make some homemade popcorn, set up your laptop or tablet, get comfy, and press play!

Netflix And Chill
Sometimes, you just want to veg out and go where the Netflix leads you. This is super easy. We even made a couple lists of binge-worthy shows if you’re out of ideas.

The Classics
Sometimes, there's nothing better than a good old classic movie on a cold, winter night. Amazon has a lot of great classic films that you can rent for a few bucks. One of my personal favorites, It's A Wonderful Life, could be a perfect selection for a movie night during the holidays; or you could dive deep into the classic movie archive, like the pre-code film Baby Face, featuring John Wayne in one of his earliest film roles.

You don't always need a pack of people to enjoy a good game! And what couple doesn't enjoy a little friendly competition once in a while? Here's some great two-person games to play for your home-bound hang out.

Guess Who (With A DIY Bonus)
Raise your hand if you played Guess Who as a kid. Okay, that's everybody. Now, raise your hand if you love shows like The Office, Parks and Rec, and Gilmore Girls. Or maybe you're a diehard Harry Potter fan? Well, dear friends, have I got the game for you! Bloggers Sarah and Nick of The Surznick Common Room have graciously shared these templates for a DIY Guess Who game featuring—you guessed it—all your favorite characters from all your favorite shows (and Hogwarts). I made and gifted this to my husband for Father's Day last year and let me tell you, it was a hit.

Strip Poker
This one is pretty self explanatory. Suuuuure, you could just play poker, but where's the fun in that? Take advantage of your alone time and see who can keep the most clothes on (or not).

Would You Rather
No matter how long you and your partner have been together, it's unlikely you know EVERYTHING there is to know about them. Play a game of Would You Rather, and you’ll see! It's easy enough to do on your own, but in case you're stumped, here's a list of prompts to get you started.

Video Game Night
Instead of asking your partner to shut off their console to spend time with you tonight, why not join them in a two-player game? If you don't have a console, but have ever reminisced about the days of Donkey Kong Country and Super Mario Brothers, check out your local Rent-A-Center, where you can rent-to-own a variety of consoles and quell that button-smashing itch.

Sexy Time

Maybe you've already done some of our above ideas, or maybe you just want to skip all that and just get down and dirty. Hold tight, keep your shirt on (for now). Take a look at these ideas for value-added, entertaining ways to do the sex.

Naked Twister
You know that game of Twister stashed in the back of your closet that your kids don't play with anymore? You might want to claim it for yourselves! There's lots fun ways to spice up this classic game, other than the obvious absence of clothing! One way is to "sexy sabotage" your partner. Do your best to get them to fall over by kissing, well, whatever bodypart your mouth happens to be closest to at the time.

TOUCH. EACH. OTHER. Get in there. The best part of this idea is literally all you need is your hands! Of course, adding a nice body oil to the massage can feel and smell luxurious. Bonus: Check out Pooka if you're looking for an oil (or any skin/body care product) They are a black woman-owned business, and owner Dawn Fitch's story is inspiring!

Sex Bucket List
You probably already have a bucket list. You know, seeing the Grand Canyon, skydiving, seeing Hamilton on Broadway, whatever. Why not make a sex bucket list? You and your partner can create your own separately, then get together to see how many you can, er, bang out together.

Anywhere But The Bed
This one is simple. Have sex anywhere that’s not your bed. Get creative: don't just settle for the couch. Explore the stairs! The counter! The hallway! The shower! Just this little switch up can make sex more exciting, entertaining, or at the very least, more hilarious; give it a try!