Having a Bad Parenting Day? You Need These 4 Strategies
Written by Kelli Wilson
Ahhh, the bad parenting day. Sometimes it seems like the rule and not the exception, right? You are not alone. Let’s face it, kids can be jerks, and we only have so much patience to give. The other day my kiddos decided to get up way before the crack of dawn because of that daylight savings time nonsense. We reluctantly let them get into bed with us, but only if they would be quiet, be still, and try to rest. And as we are lying there in our bed, they are of course giggling, running their mouths, kicking and pushing on each other. My husband said SHHH! about a dozen times. Finally, forcefully, he said, “I am NOT in the mood.” At which point both kiddos turned towards him and simultaneously shushed him. Inside I was dying laughing. My husband, not so much. Let’s just say he had to leave the room for a bit. What do we do when we are not in the mood and have had way more than enough? Here are some ideas that I hope can help.
1. Meditation/Quiet Time
I know this is an obvious option, but I feel like sometimes it seems unreachable for the everyday parent. Especially when there are toddlers running amok in the house and a newborn baby crying around the clock. But it may be an option if you have a helper or partner in the home. Get away to at least a semi-quiet place, even if just for five minutes. In the bathroom perhaps? Or even your closet. You know what they say, beggars can’t be choosers. Just sit and focus on your breath and clear your mind. Say a prayer or maybe some affirmations to yourself.
2. Hot Shower or Bath
I know, I know: hot shower? What’s that? You maybe haven’t had one in a few days. I know sometimes a “shower” for me involves some baby wipes and a few swipes of deodorant. But let’s not forget how rejuvenating a real shower can be. You know how sometimes your partner or relative or friend may ask you if there is anything they can do to help? Ask them to watch the kids for 20 or 30 minutes, and get you some hot, soapy goodness goin’ on. If you don’t have any help, slap on a movie for the older kids, and you can always put the baby in a bouncer in the bathroom with you.
3. Read a Book
Steal away with a steamy romance or suspenseful bite-your-nails thriller. ESCAPE. Live vicariously through the story and the characters. Our minds need a break from time to time. This is a good way to do that. You can’t get away on a date or a shopping trip with friends? Get lost in a book. Come back to reality, ready to face the rest of the day.
4. Take a Walk
Science has shown that being outside helps with depression, anxiety, and can even lower our blood pressure. So, get out there! Sit on the patio, go for a walk around the block, whatever you can do. I personally love a nice windy day. Just feeling the breeze on my face and the way it makes the leaves sing. There is nothing like it.
Remember, as parents we have to take care of ourselves in order to take care of our kiddos. And a lot of times that means finding ways to calm down, to refresh. Sometimes all we can do is walk into another room and count to 20. Just let them throw their temper tantrum for a moment. Find some peace for yourself so that you can facilitate peace for your home.